Our Gender Gap: Top 5 Reasons

1. Myth: Interracial Relationships are Better than Same Race Ones

Assholes, bitches, liars and cheaters are prevalent in every race and ethnic group. To perpetuate the notion that the gender of one race is “nicer” or better than another, is as backwards as spreading the idea that Dark-Brown people enjoyed slavery.

So, here’s the solution: Stop being a Modern Day Slave—all too happy to serve and uplift an oppressive image of your own people. As MLK would say, don’t judge people “… by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.”

2. Hypocrisy

As a group with a history of being discriminated against, Dark-Brown people are often the worse offenders of discrimination—particularly against other Dark-Brown people. Ever heard or said these phrases:

·         “I don’t date Black women”

·         “I don’t date Black men”

·         “She’s cute for a dark-skin girl”

·         “He’s cute but, he’s too dark”

·         “I don’t want dark-skin children”

·         “Get your black-ass over here!”

Solution: You can’t cry discrimination only when it applies to someone of another race. Recognizing and addressing our own discriminatory behavior should be the first priority. Otherwise, you’re being a hypocrite.

3. No Personal Accountability: “The Blame Game”

This is one of the main reasons for the gender gap between Dark-Brown men and women. When you can’t admit to your mistakes or shortcomings and blame what you do on others, you make it that much harder to bridge our gender gap.

Solution: Dark-Brown people must stop looking for excuses for their behavior.

Dark-Brown men, stop blaming what you do on society, “the man,” “the Black woman” and slavery. If you are on the street dealing drugs, committing crimes, sexing multiple women, unable to care for your multiple children, then expect to get caught and don’t get upset when you’re made to face your consequences.

Dark-Brown women, stop having multiple sex partners, refusing to work because you're receiving child-support, and cursing and yelling at your children. As a woman, you are responsible for either breaking or continuing a negative cycle for the next generation of human beings. Hold yourself accountable for making our future better.

4. Degradation

The back-and-forth exhibited between Dark-Brown men and women about which 

gender is better is self-destructive. It’s often a barrage of unsupported claims and statements filled with rhetoric but disguised as fact. Here's something to think about:

·         If all Dark-Brown women are “angry,” then doesn’t that make all Dark-Brown men “cry-babies?”

·         If all Dark-Brown men have multiple “baby-mamas,” then doesn’t that make every Dark-Brown woman a “baby-mama?”

Solution: Mature and grow up! Both genders have their roles to play in the relationship:

Dark-Brown men look outside of pimps and rappers for real-world examples of men. Real men don’t degrade their race of women and they provide for their family. Name another race of men, that tells the world that they hate the women of their own race?

i.e. Al Roker and Deborah Roberts:  Al isn't threatened by the success of his wife, Deborah. He supports, loves and doesn't degrade her. They are partners, they are Dark Brown Love!

Dark-Brown women you can’t do it all alone, don’t emasculate your Dark-Brown men. Work together as partners, but don’t take on his role and don’t tell him he’s worthless. Show me one woman who can procreate on her own.

i.e. Pauletta Washington and Denzel Washington: Pauletta was supportive of Denzel after giving up her music career so that he could pursue acting. She didn't make him feel worthless or emasculate him by trying to be the man in their home. They are partners, they are Dark Brown Love!

5.  Loss of Ethnocentrism = Loss of Self
Between J. Edgar Hoover's "COINTELPRO" program and the government's use of Dark-Brown drug dealers to flood crack-cocaine into urban homes and dismantle family life, the strong sense of self previously held by Dark-Brown people was crippled. Leaders from civil rights groups fell victim to the zombie-like effects of crack and Dark-Brown people were on a destructive path to losing their ethnocentrism. By Dark-Brown people losing the knowledge of their historical past and heritage, they essentially lose themselves.

This loss of self, effects our ability to connect with the experiences of the past in order to avoid making the same mistakes in the future. Essentially, we have wiped the slate and hit the reset button for those who seek to rid the world of Dark-Brown people.

Solution:  Read the "Willie Lynch Letter" because it explains the psychological and physical breakdown of Dark-Brown people that turned them from being men and women, into obedient slaves. Learn from what was done in your past to avoid repeating history!

Also, take the time to learn about who you are and where you come from by engaging older people who were involved with the civil rights movement. Need access to more instantaneous information? Check out the National Archives and Record Administration (NARA) website and even the FBI.